S10 E41-44 (Building Success Habits) Claiming Your Hero’s Story with Londina Cruz & Donna Kunde

S10 E41-44 (Building Success Habits)                                                                                                              
Londina Cruz & Donna Kunde - “Building Success Habits” 
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Claiming Your Hero’s Story 
Identifying your own great story (or stories) helps you to find something of your own specialness in a way that helps you understand the significance of your own life. No one but you can tell this story because you are the only one who knows what you are here to do or to learn.

S10 E41 Your Life Story/Your Life Myth |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz 

1. “Myths are made for the imagination to breathe life into them.”---Albert Camus 
   
2. Finding the great story that informs your life is a sacred task. To know your story is to know who you are. It is not to be taken lightly, although it does not have to be unduly heavy either. If you know your own great story, you are much less likely to sell yourself short, to get confused by the inessential, or to let others manipulate you or talk you into being less than you could be. 
   
3. For most of our lives, many of us feel as if we are traveling without a map. We know we're moving, but we have no real sense of where we have been, where we are, or where we are headed. The model provided over this past season provides a general map for the journey but it is a generic map, not one tailored to your individual life. Your own great story will very likely have one or two dominant archetypes, and very definitely will include many different archetypal elements, but the way you put them together will be unique – and your own. 
   
4. The first step to writing your story is finding your dominant Myth. The best way to determine your dominant myth is to write or otherwise express your life story, as honestly as you know how, and then notice its underlying plot structure. 
   
5. The danger of not knowing one's life myth is that it is possible to continually judge oneself by the standard of a journey that is not their own. For example, someone whose compelling Myth is that of the Lover may continue to be apologetic about his or her failure to achieve great feats, since most people in our culture measure themselves against the yardstick of the Myth of the Warrior and the Ruler. Someone who's informing Myth is the Ruler however may feel inadequate for failing to live simply in the moment, that is, to be a Fool. 
   
6. People often feel a great sense of relief after they write their story and find their informing myth, since they see that what they have been doing is, in fact, just right for them. However not everyone feels this way. When people identify the plot they have been living, they may suddenly realize that they are possessed or imprisoned, not liberated, by the story and its informing archetype. One way of talking about this is to see such a myth as one's script.
   
7. Now the challenge: Write your Life Story/Life Myth. When you do, write it in an ordinary narrative way. You might want to include insights you’ve had while following this series. Think about the Archetypes that were active at different ages and add in the balance between what you have been taught to be, what you want to be and the deepest truth about your life purpose. Then write it in mythic language as a story of your heroic journey. 
   

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S10 E42 Recognizing Your Script  |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz 

1. “If we own the story then we can write the ending.” – Brene Brown
2.  Each of us has a script that has been devised in childhood as a response to what others told you about what your abilities and options were. Transactional analysis tells us that we can actually have a “script” and ”counterscript. Liberation comes when we recognize our scripts and can see if they breed positive results. 
3. Our scripts are heavily determined by outside influences. If we are named after a famous general or the toys we were given were guns and toy soldiers, we will most likely identify with the Warrior. If they bought us dolls and told us what a great mommy we would make, we are likely to identify with the Caregiver. 
4. The script is often a compensation for some early wounding. We try to come up with a plot for our lives that will keep us safer and less vulnerable to pain. This wounding is frequently  the negative or limiting messages we get about ourselves or our possibilities. These scripts reflect an underlying fear that unless we act according to the script, we will not survive. 
5. When the script is read as a myth or metaphor, the way to healing that wound is also embedded in the script. The psychological function of the script is to heal us of our primary wounding so we can go on to express our true story.  
6. When we recognize that scripts have an Archetype embedded in them, we can understand that most of us are better off if we don’t fight our scripts. It is better to simply recognize them and take them to a higher level. 
7. When writing your script include the following: Who have you been scripted to be? How does this script limit your life? What might be the gift or lesson in your script?

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S10 E43 Steps to Write Your Life Story |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz 

1. “Life is like a blank book, you write your own story not others.” – Zihan Zheng    
   
2. If your hero's story seems to be a confining Myth to you, you may want to reinterpret what the Myth could mean to you.
   
3. Many people find that they have two major stories active at the same time: a script and a deeper, more empowering myth. 
   
4. While it may be ideal to know our own Miss once and for all, it is unlikely that we will do so. Our understanding of our life tasks and our life story is an evolving one, one that is actually greatly affected by what is on top for us during the specific chronological period. during which we are writing. 
   
5. Any of us who gets too attached to any one version of Our Own Story, or is living out an unexamined story, needs the renewal that comes from reconsidering that story in the light of current realities. It is a good idea to update your myth frequently to see that the plot you are living is still a useful and enlivening one.
   
6. Use these five steps as a guide to writing your life’s story:
   
   1. What was the most empowering thing anyone ever told you about yourself?
      
   2.  Who and what has most inspired you? How's your life been altered because of this person, idea, or experience?
      
   3.  What brings you real pleasure and satisfaction? What are you good at? What do you really love to do?
      
   4. Write your life story in the form of an obituary that will describe the essential truth of your life. It is not necessary to write what you think your obituary will say. Write what it would say if you fulfilled your potential in every area of life – personal and spiritual as well as professional. What would it say if you lived your life fully and on your deathbed had no regrets?
      
   5.  What Archetypes have been active in your life? What Archetypes would have to be active in your life for you to fulfill your potential? 
      

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S10 E44 Finding a New Story |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz

1. “Be brave enough to write your own story… And then rewrite it.” – Maria Shriver
   
2. There is no way to be happy except to live out your own deep, great story. The development of the Ego requires us to develop and act out our formative story. When we experience initiation, that story begins to fail us. It is simply not adequate to guide us in the new territory we have entered. 
   
3. During this time, we feel conflicted, cursed with an inner struggle between two conflicting stories, and cognitive dissonance, until there is some resolution. 
   
4. At this point, we may not yet have any conscious knowledge of what reconciliation is. We may simply feel a void where the struggle used to be. It is often by observing our actions that we discover what the resolution is. 
   
5. Here are three steps to find a new story:
   
   • Examine the myths or stories you have written and determine whether they enliven or interfere with your life.
     
   • If there are parts of these myths or stories you wish to change, do so. Begin working on a countermyth, remembering that the key to your countermyth will be found in your fantasies.
     
   • See if you can integrate the best of these two myths or stories. 
     
6. The difference between living a great story and living your own story is that the second one is genuinely your own story that you are living. This makes you feel deeply satisfied and there is meaning in your life. No life, no matter how successful and exciting it might be, will make you happy if it is not really your life. And no life will make you miserable if it is genuinely your own. The future we face may be a nightmare or a miracle. The choice is ours. 
   

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