S9 E37-40 (Building Success Habits) The Key To Peace of Mind with Londina Cruz & Donna Kunde

Londina Cruz & Donna Kunde - “Building Success Habits” 
IBGR.Network...The World of Business at Your Fingertips

The Key To Peace of Mind
 When we talk about finding peace of mind, a great analogy is to think of tranquilizers. When we are given a tranquilizer it does not change our environment. The negative and disturbing stimuli are still there and we are able to recognize them intellectually. But what does happen is the tranquilizer keeps us from responding to them emotionally. Today we will look at ways to use natural “tranquilizers” that take the form of different ways of thinking in order to respond to stressors in a more tranquil way so we can find peace of mind.   

​

E37 Response Is Good. Over-Response Is A Bad Habit |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz 

1. “Every intention is a trigger for transformation.”-- Deepak Chopra
   
2. Outside triggers happen to each one of us throughout the day. The external stimulus from our environment suddenly changes our intentions. For example, you might be sitting quietly preparing to do some work when all of a sudden the phone rings. When we get a phone call, most of us rush to answer it without even thinking. This outside stimulus moves us into action without us even thinking about it. 
   
3. The point is this: You do not HAVE to answer the phone. You do not have to obey any outside stimulus. You can choose to totally ignore it. 
   
4. Now see yourself sitting quietly and choosing to ignore the phone. Even though you are aware of it ringing, you no longer obey it. The phone has no power over you any more and does not move you into action. In the past you responded out of habit. Now you can form a new habit of not responding. Also notice that not responding does not consist of “doing something” or making an effort or resisting or fighting. You merely relax and ignore the stimuli. How could life be different using this method?
   

TAGS: IBGR, IBGR Network, Donna Kunde, Londina Cruz, triggers, emotional triggers, triggered, trigger, how to stop being triggered, emotional triggers respond, how to respond to triggering comments, trauma trigger response, how to calm triggers, trauma triggers, anxiety triggers, what to do when triggered, how to manage getting triggered.

​

E38 Know Your Conditioned Responses - Change The Ones That Don’t Work For You |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz 

1. “Nothing in the universe is contingent, but all things are conditioned to exist and operate in a particular manner by the necessity of the divine nature”. - Baruch Spinoza
   
2. There are many triggers or disturbing stimuli in our various environment situations that we have become conditioned to and that we respond out of habit to even if the response makes no sense.
   
3. Many of us learn fear from our parents and other well meaning people in our lives. We were taught to fear strangers for example. The response to avoid strangers served us as children. But many of us still have this same fear of strangers as adults and it interferes with our abilities to build a business, make cold calls and network. 
   
4. We can change our conditioned responses when we make the practice of relaxing instead of responding. We can use visualization to practice our new response ahead of time so it is ready when we need it. 
   
5. During this process it might be difficult to ignore the stimuli, especially if it is triggered unexpectedly. In this case you can achieve the same result by delaying your response. Delaying the response breaks up and interferes with the automatic response. It can be as easy as counting to 10 when you are tempted to use your conditioned response. 
   

TAGS: IBGR, IBGR Network, Donna Kunde, Londina Cruz,   triggers, emotional triggers, triggered, trigger, how to stop being triggered, emotional triggers respond, how to respond to triggering comments, trauma trigger response, how to calm triggers, trauma triggers, anxiety triggers, what to do when triggered, how to manage getting triggered.

​

E39 Escapism and Your Success |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz 

1. “Meditation is not about stopping thoughts, but recognizing that we are more than our thoughts and our feelings.” — Arianna Huffington
   
2. Our nervous system needs a certain amount of escapism from the continuous bombardment of external stimuli. Your soul and your nervous system need time for rest, recuperation and protection every bit as much as your physical body. 
   
3. You can create a quiet room in your mind as a place to escape to several times a day. Every time you go there you are clearing your success mechanism before taking on a new task. It is especially important to do this at the end of the work day as a way to transition. 
   
4. Insomnia and rudeness are often emotional carry-overs. If we don’t clear our mind before bed it can lead to us mentally and emotionally still trying to solve problems. But the really helpful thing to know is that friendliness, love, peace, quiet and calmness also carry over. Spending a few minutes in the quiet room of your mind wipes the slate clean of negative emotions and moods. 
   

TAGS: IBGR, IBGR Network, Donna Kunde, Londina Cruz, meditation, meditation music, meditasion, meditation relax music, zen meditation, zen meditation music, sleep meditation, healing meditation, morning meditation, meditation music relax mind body, relaxing music meditation, relaxation meditation, meditate.

​

​E40 How To Become The Calm Professional |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz

1. “Sometimes you just have to calm down a little bit and let the system work  itself”. -BlakeGriffin
2. Many professionals cause worry, insecurity and tension by trying to respond emotionally to something that doesn’t exist except in our imaginations. Doing nothing is the proper response to an unreal problem!
3. Carry these thoughts with you as your “Calm Professional” first aid kit: 
   • Inner disturbance (the opposite of tranquility) is almost always caused by over-response. Practice not responding and put some distance between yourself and the disturbing stimuli. 
   • Cure old habits of over-response, triggers and conditioned reflexes by delaying the automatic, habitual response. Counting to 10 is a great place to start. 
   • Relaxation is nature’s own tranquilizer. It is also a “non-response.” Learn physical relaxation by incorporating it into your daily routine. 
   • Use the “quiet room in your mind” technique both as a daily practice to tone down nervous responses and to clear your emotional mechanism of “carry-over” emotions that would not help the next situation.
   • Stop scaring yourself with your own mental pictures! Respond emotionally only to what is actually here and now … and ignore the rest. 

TAGS: IBGR, IBGR Network, Donna Kunde, Londina Cruz,   meditation, meditation music, meditasion, meditation relax music, zen meditation, zen meditation music, sleep meditation, healing meditation, morning meditation, meditation music relax mind body, relaxing music meditation, relaxation meditation, meditate.

We are your single, one stop source for business success, period, end of story.

Make sure you leave some thoughts in the comment section below. We are interested in continuing the conversation.

Connect with Londina at Londina.com
Learn more about Donna here…

Listen to Live: IBGR.Network
Subscribe to Our Podcast: Building Success Habits Podcast

​