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Charisma - Innate or Learned?


Today we are exploring Charisma.  Is it something we are born with or can we learn it?  We have all seen those people who have a fascination factor or x-factor.  They can walk into any room and we have to look or want to be near them.  They exude some kind of magnetic energy that draws us to them.  Most people believe that charisma is something you are born with.  You either have it or you don’t.  What if it could be taught?  How would we start?

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E29 The Charisma Myth

1. “Consciously or not charismatic individuals choose specific behaviors that make people feel a certain way.  These behaviors can be learned and perfected by anyone.” ~ Olivia Fox Cabane
2. I am in complete agreement with Ms. Cabane.  I have watched it over and over again with my clients.  Once they are connected to their power and presence, they naturally start to exude charisma.  The first step in this process is to dispel the myth that you either have it our you don’t for people.  When we look at successful leaders, politicians and performers we see that some just have a “je ne sais quois…or “X-factor”.  What we don’t realize is that by the time they get into the public eye they have already chosen the behaviors and practices that build charisma.
3. What is presence or being present in the moment?  This is one of the things that create charisma.  It is the ability to give your undivided attention to whatever is at hand.  This is a very rare quality in our world today.  When we give our attention to someone we literally pour our energy into the present moment.  All of our senses are engaged and we become animated which causes a natural magnetic resonance to those around us.  It is something that we can practice and this practice stirs up our natural life force or power.  
4. An exercise that I love to use with clients to practice unleashing their charisma is combining focusing on the present moment while they assume a power pose.  Imagine your favorite superhero hands on hips, shoulders back, head held high and step into the image.  Now just breathe and let your body give you whatever feelings it has for you.  What usually happens is they start to giggle because they feel silly but after a while they start to feel more powerful and focused.  Their body is taking on the stance of power and informing their mind and emotions.  When we see people standing in their power and fully present we naturally can’t wait to hear what they have to say. 

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Known to many as “The Magnetic Voice,” Monique McDonald is a Grammy-nominated, award-winning vocal specialist and certified Conscious Transformational Coach. Initially terrified to audition or speak publicly, Monique studied intensely with excellent coaches to cultivate her confidence. As a result, she celebrated with outstanding Opera and Master Class performances throughout Europe, Russia, Japan, and the US, including Carnegie Hall, NYC, and the Kennedy Center in Washington, DC. When Monique helps you unlock your natural charisma and your “Magnetic Voice,” you benefit from secrets learned in over twenty years through High Stakes Performance combined with her unique coaching style.  Her passion is inspiring charismatic communication and mastery of the human voice to empower entrepreneurs, speakers, and leaders.


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E30 Charisma for the introvert
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1. ““Introverts are happiest when we stay connected to our inner world. Doing so allows us to cultivate our own kind of charisma.” Michaela Chung2.  Last week we talked about humor being one of the quickest ways to gain rapport in presentations and conversations.  This week we are talking about the place where a lot of entrepreneurs often lose rapport in presentations and conversations.  Very often when we get to that point of sale we back away from the moment.  We allow ourselves to be overtaken by our history around money which causes inner misalignment and silent self sabotage.  It seems that no matter how much we push ourselves to have these sales conversations, there is often some obstacle that shows up to block our ability to stay present at the point of sale.
3. Let’s take a look at why this is so common.  When I come across people who find this easy and even fun, I ask them why they find it so easy.  The response is more often than not, “It never occurred to me that it could be difficult.  I just do it.”  As is often the case, when someone is in their zone of genius it rarely occurs to them how it works. It just works.  This is also true with our voice.  We most often take it for granted and rarely even think about it until it stops working or becomes weak.  As I started to study this I discovered that for most people when there is a disturbance with money or the voice, it is usually based on a life experience that caused the person to shut down their power.  They made a decision about money or their voice of power that became a belief that is now sabotaging their natural flow.
4.  Once we identify the thought or belief that caused the shut down, the rehabilitation process is relatively quick.  What takes time is turning that unconscious thought or belief into a conscious one that must be practiced and strengthened so that it becomes unconscious again.  You see the truth is, the unconscious mind always wins.  It runs the show.  It is the program running in the background of your brain and no matter how many new apps you would like to try, you have got to reboot.  What we discover is that it is our nature to speak up and ask for what we want or need.  We are meant to continue to connect and share even if people say no to our invitations.  What gets sticky here is our history of how no was expressed in the past and the loss of our personal power when we needed to say no and didn’t.  Isn’t it curious that all this gets activated by a simple invitation to potential clients? 

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Known to many as “The Magnetic Voice,” Monique McDonald is a Grammy-nominated, award-winning vocal specialist and certified Conscious Transformational Coach. Initially terrified to audition or speak publicly, Monique studied intensely with excellent coaches to cultivate her confidence. As a result, she celebrated with outstanding Opera and Master Class performances throughout Europe, Russia, Japan, and the US, including Carnegie Hall, NYC, and the Kennedy Center in Washington, DC. When Monique helps you unlock your natural charisma and your “Magnetic Voice,” you benefit from secrets learned in over twenty years through High Stakes Performance combined with her unique coaching style.  Her passion is inspiring charismatic communication and mastery of the human voice to empower entrepreneurs, speakers, and leaders.


Looking for more 1-to1 help with your Message to the World? Check out my coaching packages at themagneticvoice.com Then click “Transform with Monique” to book a complimentary connection call and let’s see which one is a good fit for your needs!

E31  The A, B, C’s of Charisma

1. ""When you put together deep knowledge about a subject that intensely matters to you, charisma happens. You gain courage to share your passion, and when you do that, folks follow."                  ~ Jerry I. Porras
2. The first time I heard the term “seeding the sale”, I really thought I was in the wrong place.  I was at a convention for entrepreneurs called, “Speak to Sell” with Lisa Sasevich.  This was my first foray into creating products and programs and selling them.  What struck me most about this room full of entrepreneurs, is that although the name of the event was “Speak to Sell”, most of the people there were not salesy at all.  They were heart centered entrepreneurs that were learning new ways of organizing their content, presenting it and selling it.  It was an outstanding weekend and it was the first time I truly understood that we are all creating a call to action all the time.  What is a call to action anyway?  It is an invitation to take the next step in your self development and business.  
3. What I discovered is that seeding the sale is where the magic happens.  When we understand that in all our relationships and conversations we are engaged with how we want our listener to feel and what we want them to do, we realize that we must also do that for ourselves.  As we learn how to start the invitation from the beginning of the conversation, planting seeds of what action we will call our listeners to do, it will be easy to continue the flow when it comes time to invite.  Our content will be filled with the results and joy we have experienced.  We will tell stories of those we have already invited to come on the journey with us.  
4. When we see others experiencing joy and successful results, don’t we want to continue the conversation?  When we are ready we want to be guided through the hard parts of life’s journey so we can get to experience that success and joy right now.  We want to learn how to create habits in order to sustain it quicker and easier.   So now when we think of being the one who invites, we are inviting from a place of “Of course you want to come on this journey with me and I can’t wait to show you the shortcuts and guide you through the tricky parts!  Let’s do this walk together!”  All of a sudden you are not selling, you are inviting so enthusiastically it becomes an irresistible invitation.  If it is not their time to make the journey, you have planted seeds and left bread crumbs so they will find you when they are ready.

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Known to many as “The Magnetic Voice,” Monique McDonald is a Grammy-nominated, award-winning vocal specialist and certified Conscious Transformational Coach. Initially terrified to audition or speak publicly, Monique studied intensely with excellent coaches to cultivate her confidence. As a result, she celebrated with outstanding Opera and Master Class performances throughout Europe, Russia, Japan, and the US, including Carnegie Hall, NYC, and the Kennedy Center in Washington, DC. When Monique helps you unlock your natural charisma and your “Magnetic Voice,” you benefit from secrets learned in over twenty years through High Stakes Performance combined with her unique coaching style.  Her passion is inspiring charismatic communication and mastery of the human voice to empower entrepreneurs, speakers, and leaders.


Be sure to subscribe to The Magnetic Voice Show so you never miss an episode!

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E32 Character…Charisma…Connection

1. “Charisma gets the attention of man and character gets the attention of God.”  Rich Wilkerson, Jr.
   

1. Everytime we share a call to action with our target audience, we invite them to step into their biggest vision of themselves.  There is a precious, intimate moment that is created when we make this invitation.  So many of us miss it, though, because we get tangled up in our own stories and wounds over money and failure.  We can often miss this moment that could be the most important moment of our potential client’s life.  This moment when they actually need us the most.
   
2. Most of us respond to the words of Zig Ziggler with a resounding Yes, that is true.  However, when it is time to step into the truth of it by taking action, most of us don’t feel worthy of this truth.  We have a belief deep down that we haven’t accomplished enough or been successful enough to deserve greatness.  So when it comes time to say yes to the invitation or call to action, we often choose to say no.  Just like when it comes time to make the invitation or give the call to action, there is that within us that says no.  It may be a whisper of a no that we don’t even recognize as no.  It just feels like a disconnect or very uncomfortable sensation.
   
3. So here is my call to action for you today.  Decide to live from the place in you where Mr. Ziggler’s statement is true.  Decide to believe that when you next make your call to action, what you are offering is so good they will not only want to see it again, they will invite their friends.  Vow you will stay in the moment with your potential clients and just hold space for them to find it in themselves to say yes to THEIR natural design for accomplishment and success, yes to being willing to nurture the seeds of THEIR greatness.  When you realize that they are already your clients, you will discover that they don’t need you to sell or convince them of anything.  What they need is for you to open the door and invite them into your vision of who they truly are.  Remind them of their magic and invite them to step into their greatness.
   

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Known to many as “The Magnetic Voice,” Monique McDonald is a Grammy-nominated, award-winning vocal specialist and certified Conscious Transformational Coach. Initially terrified to audition or speak publicly, Monique studied intensely with excellent coaches to cultivate her confidence. As a result, she celebrated with outstanding Opera and Master Class performances throughout Europe, Russia, Japan, and the US, including Carnegie Hall, NYC, and the Kennedy Center in Washington, DC. When Monique helps you unlock your natural charisma and your “Magnetic Voice,” you benefit from secrets learned in over twenty years through High Stakes Performance combined with her unique coaching style.  Her passion is inspiring charismatic communication and mastery of the human voice to empower entrepreneurs, speakers, and leaders.


Looking for more 1-to1 help with your Message to the World? Check out my coaching packages at themagneticvoice.com Then click “Transform with Monique” to book a complimentary connection call and let’s see which one is a good fit for your needs!