The Five Elements of Emotional Intelligence - Cedrick LaFleur

Introduction
Like most lasting ideas, the importance of emotional intelligence seems obvious in hindsight. Research shows developing greater emotional intelligence can lead to higher performance and pay as well as better professional and personal relationships.  As Inc. columnist Justin Bariso defines it, emotional intelligence is the ability to make emotions work for and not against you.


Show Objectives
Our objective is to help the business leader understand why self awareness is important. How it can impact your organization, both positive and negative.


Key Issues 
Self-awareness is fairly self-evident: knowing what you feel, why you feel that way, and how those feelings either help or hinder you. And knowing your strengths and weaknesses and when to ask for help.
 
Self-management is also obvious. Managing how you respond, especially in times of stress, conflict, or adversity. Staying focused on your goals. 
 
In simple terms, social awareness is empathy: listening to others, paying attention to others, and finding common ground. The ability to put yourself in other people's shoes -- or, more broadly, to put yourself in your organization's "shoes."


What You Need to Know
Five elements that define emotional intelligence:

1. Self awareness
2. Self regulation
3. Motivation
4. Empathy
5. Social skills


What You Need to Do
Self-Awareness (Emotional Intelligence)
    

Jack Handy’s story of what happens when we lack self-awareness:
“People were always talking about how mean this guy was who lived on our block. But I decided to go see for myself. I went to his door, but he said he wasn’t the mean guy, the mean guy lived in that house over there. ‘No, you stupid idiot,’ I said, ‘ that’s my house.’

To become a self-aware pay attention to 
​What you are doing
The impact it is having 
Then alter your behavior as necessary
Become aware of your style under stress


Many of these skills may seem to be best suited for those who understand basic human psychology. While high EQ skills may come more easily to naturally empathetic people, anyone can develop them. 

Less empathetic people just have to practice being more self-aware and conscious of how they interact with others.



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Written by: Cedrick LaFleur, LaFleur Leadership Institute
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